WRITTEN BY Alexandra Dillard |Feature Photo by Louie Abellera Weddings
Your future spouse is the one you instinctively seek comfort from, especially during your most emotional moments. Your wedding morning will undoubtedly be a day where emotions are high! As your wedding day nerves are coursing, you might long for nothing more than to embrace your partner in a big, warm hug. But with wedding preparations in full swing, you and your wedding parties will be busy getting glammed up! Instead of spending the morning physically together, make your presence known through a heartfelt, handwritten note.
The tradition of exchanging letters with your partner on your wedding day has stood the test of time. Sure, it might feel old-fashioned to dust off the stationery set and find a pen that still has ink in it, but don’t overlook this gesture.
For many, articulating their true emotions can be challenging. Yet, expressing yourself through written words on paper can offer a sense of ease. Not only will it allow for more thoughtful phrasing, but the letter itself can be treasured and revisited throughout the wedding morning and for years to come. By putting your feelings of love into writing, you ensure that the words endure in a way that spoken phrases may not. As the years pass, your love will mature, but the sentiments expressed in these letters will serve as a poignant reminder of the feelings you experienced on your wedding day.
Just as with wedding vows, the content and style of these letters can vary. Some couples prefer to write poetic and romantic letters, while others lean towards light-hearted and humorous notes. Unlike vows, which require a polished and suitable tone for all attendees, your wedding morning letter allows for the inclusion of intimate details and private notions. The key is to be genuine and capture the essence of your relationship to the best of your abilities.
As you write your letter, here are eight things to consider when putting pen to paper:
- Reflect on your relationship: Take some time to think about your journey as a couple, from when you first met to the sweet moments that have brought you to this day. Reflect on the special memories, challenges you’ve overcome together and the reasons why you love your partner.
- Think about what your partner wants to read: Your tone can be romantic, poetic, sincere or even inject a touch of humor. When deciding what tone to go with, think about what will resonate most with your partner. While you might be a natural jokester, if your partner loves a sappy declaration, try to cater your letter to what they will appreciate reading the most.
- Find a quiet and comfortable space: As you sit down to write, choose a peaceful and undisturbed space where you can let your thoughts flow freely. Create an ambiance that helps you feel relaxed and inspired, which can include lighting candles or playing your favorite songs. Pick a space that has a natural writing surface, like a table or desk. Writing in your lap might be comfy, but you want your handwriting to be legible!
- Express your love and gratitude: Write about how much you love and appreciate your partner, highlighting the qualities that make them special to you. You may often tell your significant other you love them, but how often do you tell them you’re thankful for their partnership? Express gratitude for their presence in your life and the joy they bring.
- Show don’t tell: Rather than saying how much you love and appreciate them, show them by recounting your favorite memories. Recall and describe cherished moments and experiences you’ve shared together. It could be about the day you met, a special trip or just an everyday, household moment that defines your relationship.
- Talk about the future: Express your hopes and dreams for your future together. Discuss the life you envision as a married couple, the goals you want to achieve and the adventures you wish to embark on. Share your commitment to supporting each other through thick and thin.
- Write about your excitement for the day: Express your anticipation for the wedding day itself. Share your anticipation about exchanging vows, celebrating with loved ones and officially beginning your life together. Let your partner know how much you’re looking forward to marrying them in the time-honored tradition of a wedding.
- End with a loving closing: Conclude the letter with a heartfelt closing. Your partner will probably read the letter more than once throughout the morning, but this final sentiment will be the one that lingers. In the closing, authentically convey your everlasting love and commitment and then sign the letter with your name or special nickname.