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| Q. My fiance's mother is getting remarried and I did not know what would be an appropriate gift. This is a second marriage for both and there is no registry. I have purchased a small photo album and am having the cover engraved with the name and date, but I am afraid that we should do something more substantial. Please advise. THANKS!! |
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| Q. My wedding planning has been running a little bumpy, but we are getting it done none the less. My problem is with our guest list. Both of our families offered to pay for part of the wedding. We checked with them before we put down deposits. However, after we put the deposits down, both families decided that they "could not afford it." Since, my fiance and I were hit with that we have had to cut back a lot on the expenses for the wedding because we are paying for it ourselves. Now that we are making the guest list, both of our families are giving us huge guest lists and inviting people by word of mouth. We have already told them that this is a small wedding and that the guest list cannot exceed 100. They will then nod and say that they understand and continue to invite everyone they know.How can we put an end to this? Of course we will be editing the guest list and sending out the invitations ourselves, but should we be concerned with the consequences? How many times do we need to repeat ourselves on this issue?Please advise. |
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| Q. I’m very excited about getting married but there is a slight problem with the "Dad" situation. My parents are divorced and re-married. My mother's husband does not get along with my biological father. But I want my father to attend my wedding. I feel if my father does attend, my mother's husband will cause a scene. I have already thought of not inviting my mother's husband, but was told by her that if her husband cannot come than she will not come either. It means everything to me to have my parents be there. I want my day to be a joyous one, not a day for the police to show up. I don’t know what I should do, what is appropriate? I am torn. |
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Q. Help! My mom is very traditional when its coming to our wedding, and while I want it in the church, my fiancé wants his parents to walk him down the isle as well...she's hesitantly agreed to this. But more importantly my bridesmaids are different shapes and sizes. I've read and seen many pictures of how different dresses in the same color can look very elegant. I’ve shared these with her and my aunt even told her about personal experiences. She still thinks it will look bad, but figures "I'm going to do what I want anyway". The problem is she is coming dress shopping with us, how do I not make this into a huge issue? We've already gotten into one fight in a bridal store over my dress.
Any Suggestions? I could really use her in my corner b/c I think my soon to be mother-in-law will be there b/c her daughter is standing up and she is also very opinionated. |
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| Q. Do you have any suggestions as to how a young girl (cousins) can be involved in the wedding without being junior bridesmaids? |
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| Q. I am having a problem. I am not close with my father or stepfather. I am close with my father's family. I don't want any hurt feelings on my wedding day, but I don't really want to do a father/daughter dance. The only problem is my fiance wants to do a mother/son dance for sure. I can't have a mother/son dance and no father/daughter dance. What should I do? |
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| Q. Is it the bride's responsibility to pay for her attendants to get their hair done? I have 6 attendants and am on a small budget.
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| Q. Do you have any creative suggestions for how I can ask my bridesmaids to be in my wedding and help plan it? |
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| Q. My fiancé desperately hates his last name and to be honest, I’m not all that excited about the prospect of changing my name to something that will cause our future children to be teased when they go to school. We don’t want to hurt his parents’ feelings by not carrying on the family name, but do we have any other options? |
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Q. I am a recently engaged bride. My father passed away, I have no brothers and my only uncle and I have never been close. I am being pressured to ask him to walk me down the aisle anyway. This isn't something I am comfortable with, but I am being told I have no choice. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Pressured Bride |
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Q. My Mother died five years ago. My father has since re-married. My fiance and I are paying for a bulk of our wedding, but his parents and my father/step-mother are helping too. What would be a good way to word my invitations without people getting upset or offended?
Thanks,
Confused. |
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Q. After more than 30 years of marriage, my parents divorced.
It happens, I know, but I was truly hurt and disappointed with my Dad because it was his idea. I don't know if I want my Dad to walk me down the aisle because of the complex feelings I have for him. Even though he is financially able to do so, he is not helping with the cost of the wedding. My mother is paying for the wedding.
Because of my close relationship with my Mom and all her work and effort with the wedding, I am thinking of asking her to walk me down the aisle. Since learning of this, Dad calls weekly to "check on the plans." This is something he wouldn't do if he knew he was walking me down the aisle. My Mom is bitter with him and said my brother should do it. I know this is my time to shine and now I feel like he is bidding on the position and only wants the honor of walking me down the aisle in a vain way to capture some of my spotlight.
I don't want to disappoint my Mom by asking him, although she has said that if I did ask him, she will deal with it. My Dad is very selfish and vain and I don't want him to gloat. If he does walk me down the aisle, do I still have a father/daughter dance and feel like I just stabbed my Mom in the back? How can I honor her in a way that everyone will know she made the whole day happen? I don't want to hurt anyone.
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Solo Bride |
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Q. My fiancé and I decided we want an adults only wedding reception. We did not even invite our own grandchildren. We feel that adults should have a relaxing evening without having to deal with unruly children. We sent our invitations to Mr. & Mrs. We did not include and guests, and children, and family. We received a reply back from a couple who is also bringing their child with. We absolutely do not want this child there. If one child comes, other parents will think that we invited some children and not all. How can we handle this? Should we call them and tell them not to bring the child? Should we have my sister-in-law who is helping with the plans call? Or are we stuck having the child come? Please advise.
Thanks,
Fed-Up Bride |
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Q. I am having a difficult time choosing what close friends to have stand up with me. The problem starts with my fiancé: he only has two friends as attendants, but I have lots of girlfriends and don’t want the sides to be uneven. I can’t imagine not including my dearest friends in my wedding. Any suggestions?
Sincerely,
Out of Room |
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Q. Our wedding plans were moving along very smoothly until our first meeting with the caterer. In our discussions about cocktails and beverages, my fiance revealed that his parents are out adamantly against liquor being served at our reception. They say that booze has no place at a wedding, and will be extremely upset if we don't abide by their wishes. But I can't imagine not having a champagne toast or serving the perfect chilled white wine with our Chilean sea bass entr'ee. And what fun is a mocktail hour? Do you have any advice on handling this situation?
Sincerely,
Not a teetotaler |
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Q. One of my bridesmaids hates the dress I've selected, but I don't want to change it since everyone else loves it - including me! What should I tell her?
Sincerely,
Diplomatic Bride |
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